Single fathers with dating daughters
She was smart, she was sexy, she was financially independent – and she had no time to give to me.At the time, when I was 33, I blamed her for this, thinking that if she liked me more, she’d make a greater effort. What I didn’t know then is that kids suck up every second of free time you’ve got, and that you have to work extra hard to create me-time, much less couple-time.
I just want a friend and a companion and someone who I have chemistry and intellectual compatibility with.So instead of giving up on the whole thing – which, as you know – is incredibly shortsighted, given that you have 50 more years on this earth, how about you change focus?Middle-aged divorced men understand what it’s like to be you.but dating when you have FOUR kids is like the Mt Everest of the dating world!It seems almost impossible for men to see past that.I’d venture to guess that your sex-oriented guys feel the same way. You shouldn’t quit because single men your age want sex and more time.
You should just find a guy who is looking for a Brady Bunch family, who sees sex as the icing on the cake instead of the cake itself.
I am seriously at the point of giving up on the whole dating thing…
Is it too much of an ask that I could actually meet someone who can see me as a woman, and not just as mother or worse, a bit of bedroom fun? I know Everest is high, but SOME people get up the damn thing, don’t they?
Dear Christina, Before I give you the pep talk you need, let me first acknowledge the painful truths that you’ve eloquently outlined above. Having four kids under the age of 9 is a huge handicap.
I’d try to spin it in a slightly more positive way, but I can’t.
I’m tired of guys treating me like I should be grateful if they even stick around for five minutes. Do I need to be a nun in order to find someone who can actually see a relationship with me?